September 16, 2020
It’s obvious that the coronavirus has affected almost every wedding planned for 2020. Almost every couple has had to consider postponing or drastically changing up their wedding plans. As a friend or someone close to a couple that was supposed to be getting married this year, you’ll likely need to talk them off a ledge a time or two in the coming months. Here are a few suggestions on how you can approach this subject and show your support.
Chances are, they don’t really know what to do right now. Asking them a bunch of questions could just raise their anxiety level. Instead, try to listen to them and communicate your understanding of their feelings.
Unless you’re asked for it, avoid giving advice. When you give advice, you’re communicating what the other person should do instead of giving them the space to discuss how they feel. Instead, try validating their feelings through statements such as, “I’m sad that you’re in such a tough situation”.
Let them know that you’re thinking about them, and you’re available if they want to vent. Just the simple act of asking someone how they’re doing, with an open-ended question, shows that you care. Ask how you can support them and resist jumping in to problem-solve.
When it comes to weddings, it’s easy to completely focus on the bride and her wants and needs that we forget the groom is just as important. Don’t’ forget to ask the groom how he’s doing. It’s okay for grooms to feel sad and disappointed too!
Going out of your way to make sure that they’re okay is a sign of true friendship. If you can, be generous with your time and resources. Offer to help contact guests, do research, field questions, or anything else they could really use. Just be sure not to offer your help unless you mean it.
And just remember, while there is no perfect thing to you can say in to someone undergoing the difficult situation of postponing their wedding because of the coronavirus. All you can do is support them by opening dialogue, expressing compassion, and listening with an open heart!