September 30, 2020
It’s customary to include siblings in the bridal party as bridesmaids and groomsmen, including the coveted Maid of Honor and Best Man roles. But for many reasons, sometimes this just isn’t possible or it may not the best fit. Here are some alternative ways to incorporate siblings in your special day!
If your brother or sister is a good public speaker, consider asking them to officiate your ceremony. A ceremony can be more memorable and special when someone close to you can share heartfelt words during your I Dos.
If you have a sibling with a big personality, consider having them serve as the MC for the evening. They can offer transitions throughout special moments, announce the bridal party, announcing special dances and hype up the party atmosphere.
There’s nothing wrong with a bride making her brother a bridesman or a groom from making his sister a groomslady.
If your sibling has a particular skill (playing a musical instrument, signing, floral design, baking, ect…), ask them if they’d like to donate their talents to your overall vision.
A sibling dance (in addition to, or instead of) parent dances can be a fun way to put a different spin on the time-honored tradition.
The reading of a poem or scripture passage is a special moment that’s easy to incorporate into the ceremony. Or they can offer a simple blessing or piece of advice to the couple during the ceremony or reception.
Siblings make some of the best speakers for speeches and toasts because they can share the most heartfelt, intimate stories about their relationship with the bride or groom and some funny childhood memories.
If your siblings are much younger, you may prefer to have them serve as ushers, junior attendants, flower girls or ring bearers.
In whatever alternative capacity your siblings serve, be sure to thank them in a special way. You can do this by writing a special acknowledgement in your wedding program, by honoring them with a simple boutonnière or corsage, or by mentioning them in your thank you speech.
When it comes down to it, there’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to involve your siblings on your wedding day. Each wedding is unique and whatever special way you plan on honoring your siblings will come together with you vision for the perfect celebration!